me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. he's not like most boys, he doesn't want me for sex or the way i look which is good because i'm ugly. one thing he carries though is being insecure about himself. to me this isn't good or bad. this isn't good because i feel like he is the MOST beautiful guy in the world to me, and i mean this in the most sense of the word. but him being insecure isn't bad either because most guys are WAY too into themselves. i want him to realize how beautiful he is to me inside and out, i explain to him but he just won't listen so i feel down and quite useless. any suggestions on how i could perhaps make him feel better about himself? maybe not even completely but just a little? something that would cheer him up?
Asketh - Anonymous
I understand how you feel, I feel useless when my fiance doesn’t think he’s good looking. We both suffer from insecurity so we invented what we call the I love this game. We just lay in bed, or sit on the sofa and we take it in turns to talk about things we love about each other. So for example, I’ll talk about how much I love his eyes and why. Then Brandon will talk about something he finds attractive and lovely about me. We start with the face, then a few weeks later we do the body and then a few weeks later we do the lower half of the body, so things get a bit sexual haha. This is a great game for intimacy, and it boosts my confidence a LOT which is a big thing because I have suffered from insecurity for years. Just give it a go, even send him random texts like ‘I hope you’re smiling, because your smile is beautiful’
Sometimes unexpected things are the things that work the most. I love kiss attacking Brandon randomly, but I kiss him everywhere that I love about him. I’ve kiss attacked his eyes, his nose, his chin and his jaw and the smile on his face is priceless every time.
I really hope this works for you (: because it also brings you both a lot closer to each other and keeps that romantic spark between youÂ
