Best friends don’t get along ALL the time so you’re not a bad friend for sometimes finding her annoying.

I had the same feeling on wednesday with my best friend, she was really annoying me because of her negative mood. 

The fact you’ve realised that you’ve seemed a bit rude and mean will help you give a heartfelt apology to her. Just tell her that you were getting annoyed and that you didn’t mean any harm by talking behind her back. Just tell her the truth about your feelings for your friendship and that some days you’re in moods where everything is annoying you and you didn’t mean to offend her or make it seem like you don’t cherish your friendship.

She should come around, I mean this isn’t the end of the world and having someone talk behind your back happens to EVERYONE even bestfriends. 

Just tell her but in future don’t trust anyone and go behind her back, it’s best to keep those feelings to yourself and calm yourself down when you get home. If you have the kind of friendship where you could tell her when you feel annoyed, then be honest with her so it prevents you from getting stressed and talking behind her back.

I really hope this helps, if it doesn’t then just wait for her to come around. I’ve fallen out with friends and thought we’d never talk again and by the following week we’re back to normal and laugh how stupid we were.

<3

If this was me in your situation, I wouldn’t go backwards. Purely because I believe that if it’s meant to be then it will happen so I don’t see the point on dwelling on something that’s not happened. 

An engagement isn’t just about being in love, it’s also a vow for the future. You really need to think if finding out about the past is going to benefit the future at all.

Something’s obviously effected you from your previous relationship. Was it a bad relationship or did it end in a bad way? Going back just because it was bad probably wouldn’t benefit you very much but there definitely is nothing wrong talking about why it actually ended, as long as it didn’t make you stray away from your engagement. 

I see no harm in talking about the past in a general conversation with your ex, but you have so much to look forward to and you have an engagement to enjoy and your whole life ahead of you. 

If you feel that getting closure will actually help you carry on in the future better, then you should talk to your ex. It wouldn’t be disrespectful if you were just honest and didn’t come across as clingy or like you’re not over him. Just a general conversation about what happened or any questions you had, it might make him gain some respect for you for being so honest?

You don’t need to talk to him to get closure over the relationship or how it ended. Sometimes a nice long bath and a good think about everything from start to finish will give you your own closure.

I’m really sorry if this didn’t help at all, I hope you get the closure you need and take care x

I understand how you must be feeling, it sounds as if you act like a couple but with the label of just friends. That’s going to be really difficult and the more you keep the label of friends up, you’re not ever going to grow into a couple. You need to be honest with him and tell him that you feel upset over him dating other girls. You being upset over this shows you care about him as more than a friend, maybe you should go on a trial dating period and see what it’s like? If you still prefer him as just a friend then, then you’ll have to stop the couple-like things and just stay close friends and let him date other girls. It’d be unfair to keep him as a friend but with the laws of a relationship and most of all, it’d be unfair to you.

There’s a fear of losing your loved one in any relationship, sometimes that can be the whole thing that determines couples that make it or couples that fall apart. For instance, the fear of losing your loved one can make some couples get overly jealous or overly insecure and control who they talk to because they’re so scared their significant other will find someone knew. This will only drive them apart and make them lose their spark. Other couples that are afraid of losing their significant other, will stay strong throughout arguments and always think before their actions because they’ll wonder what impact their words or actions will have and they’ll never want to risk losing their lover ever. 

It all depends if you use your fear of losing him as a strength or as a weakness, and right now it’s a weakness because you’re too scared to even try being with him.

Just be honest with him, and I have no doubt that he’ll be feeling the same way too. He might even be dating these girls just to try and make you jealous, you won’t know until you properly tell him everything on your mind.

Hope this helps x

I don’t want to sound harsh but what you’re doing is wrong. If I found out Brandon was leaving sweet notes to another girl, I would leave him.

Being anonymous isn’t making what you’re doing better, it’s making it look like you don’t want to be caught doing it.

You have to make a choice, you can’t keep doing this because it will do nothing but hurt the girls involved and even hurt you.

If you choose your girlfriend, you should tell her the truth. I know I would want Brandon to confess to me his mistakes. If she breaks up with you, then she breaks up with you and hopefully that will show you that going behind a girlfriend’s back and liking a different girl isn’t the best thing to do.

I know you must feel pretty confused, and I do respect the fact you’ve understood this is an issue. You got yourself into this mess by yourself, so I can’t help as much as you’d like. Most girls would consider what you’re doing as cheating, so this is a big deal which needs to be sorted quickly.

If you like someone else, then you can’t love your girlfriend. I don’t understand how that’s possible. Whichever girl you choose, you have to be honest with them and tell them what happened. 

You said you wouldn’t leave your girlfriend for this other girl, so that means you have to STOP talking to the other girl and confess to your girlfriend.

You have to be a man and face up to the mistake you’ve made. It’s the respectable and mature thing to do.

Or, you could just stop talking to both of them and be single which means you could flirt and talk to any girl you like. Which saves a lot of emotions and hearts being broken.

I’m sorry if this sounded harsh, but you only have one choice or another. Choose the girlfriend and stop talking to the other girl, choose the other girl.

I hope this helped, and good luck. I really do hope you do the right thing. 

I can really relate to this! I’m a chocoholic and I used to be able to munch my way through massive bars and still want some more a bit later. As much as I adore chocolate, it started making me feel the exact same things you have mentioned. Shortly after Christmas, I fell ill with a really bad cough. I was staying with my nan, and she’s a health freak. She gave me nothing but orange juice, cherries, salads and soups and sometimes a few picky sweet things for afters. I was there for about 6 days, completely ill but the food my nan was giving me made me feel a lot better within myself. I found myself not touching the sweets because I felt like they ruined the lovely and healthy things my nan was giving me. Now, I hardly have any chocolate and if I buy a big bar I just make sure I have a few squares instead of the whole 20! It’s so much easier to do than I thought. I used to be really sluggish and I’d always look in the mirror wishing to be healthier, not skinny. 

All you need is a little push.

You mentioned uni, so I’m going to have a wild guess here. If you live at home, you can ask whatever parent is in charge of the shopping to make sure they only get fruits and vegetables. That way, it’s more controlled and it’s the right push into a healthy diet. If you do your own shopping and don’t live at home, set a certain amount of money and budget everything you want properly. I normally spend £40 pounds a week out of my own money, and it keeps me going for a bit longer than a week.

Also, so I don’t get tempted by the food at my college, I pack my own lunch.

I’ll write a list of things I have for breakfast, lunch and tea.

For breakfast I have

• A glass of milk
• Banana
• Apple

At college, I take this with me.

• Cherries
• Bagel with ham or tuna
• Cracker biscuits with spreadable light cheese on
• Water
• Banana

For dinner I usually have

• Home made vegetable curry on fresh white rice
• Tuna on a jacket potato with salad, beetroot, cucumbers
• Cold pastas with sweetcorn, sliced carrots and cucmbers

These are just ideas. I usually make sure that Saturday is my day where I can treat myself to a bit of junk food but Sunday through to Friday, I am eating healthily.

I feel so much better in myself and I don’t even care if I lose weight or not. I just feel like I have energy. I’d advice anyone to swap their junk food for healthy food, in just a week you can feel the difference.

I would wish you good luck, but honestly you don’t need it. Anyone can do it, but I hope you have fun and don’t limit the foods you can have x

Firstly, you NEED to find someone who you can talk to about this. Someone who you can confide in and you trust won’t judge you. This is so much for just one person to be thinking about and to be dealing with and if you don’t find a way of letting it of your chest to someone, it will trouble you for ages and it will only get worst.

You have to tell your friend. Do you want her to be used the same way you were? You have probably kept this all inside for so long that your fears have made you exaggerate what she’ll think. You don’t need to go up to her and insult her boyfriend, but you need to talk just privately and warn her. Make sure you mention that you’re not trying to control her choices but you’re just looking out for her. You’re only young, you’re allowed to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. If she loses respect for you or thinks you’re lying, you’ll have to show her what I call “tough love.” You’ll have to remain calm and then just let her found out what her boyfriend is like for herself. As much as we care about people, we can’t tell them what to do even if we know it’s for their own good. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this, but that is why it is vital you’re honest with your friend.

I really hope things get sorted out and her boyfriend gets found out for what he really is. No boy has the right to treat girls like this, so I understand your worries about your friend. Losing a friend over a boy would be terrible, and you have to make sure she knows this. Even if she carries on dating him and ends up getting cheated on, be there for her. Girls need to stick together and be there for each other.

Good luck x 

I understand how you feel, I feel useless when my fiance doesn’t think he’s good looking. We both suffer from insecurity so we invented what we call the I love this game. We just lay in bed, or sit on the sofa and we take it in turns to talk about things we love about each other. So for example, I’ll talk about how much I love his eyes and why. Then Brandon will talk about something he finds attractive and lovely about me. We start with the face, then a few weeks later we do the body and then a few weeks later we do the lower half of the body, so things get a bit sexual haha. This is a great game for intimacy, and it boosts my confidence a LOT which is a big thing because I have suffered from insecurity for years. Just give it a go, even send him random texts like ‘I hope you’re smiling, because your smile is beautiful’

Sometimes unexpected things are the things that work the most. I love kiss attacking Brandon randomly, but I kiss him everywhere that I love about him. I’ve kiss attacked his eyes, his nose, his chin and his jaw and the smile on his face is priceless every time.

I really hope this works for you (: because it also brings you both a lot closer to each other and keeps that romantic spark between you 

The only way around dealing with trust issues is to just trust your special someone. When you have paranoia, this seems really scary because once you trust someone you’ve opened yourself up to vulnerability.

However, there are ways to help sooth your paranoia.

You’ve made a very good and mature choice to not spy on him, because that is a sign of really bad trust issues. It’s natural for any girl to worry about their boyfriend cheating but nobody talks about how to handle it. I really understand your concern here, but the best way forward from this is to trust your boyfriend. You definitely need to talk to him calmly and be honest about what hurts you but you have to TALK and not accuse.

I’ve noticed a lot of girls bottle up problems and then when it gets too much, they shout it out. Which just causes their boyfriend to ignore them. Guys don’t like confrontation, so you have to make sure when you’re talking to him about what upsets you, you do it very gently. Clearly saying that you’re scared will get him to notice this problem and to reassure you. It’s a serious problem too, so don’t feel like you’re needy. Your paranoia about him cheating shows you love him, and you need to make that clear to him too. 

Also, girls can be REALLY sneaky. Even if they don’t know you they’re still going to try to stir things up between relationships. Hanging out with an ex is suspicious, I think any girl would be curious about that. 

After getting reassurance from your boyfriend, you need to trust him. That doesn’t mean not ever worrying, it just means not waking up every day thinking that every girl he speaks to is someone he wants instead of you. This is also a confidence issue. You’ve been together for a year, he obviously wants you. You are pretty enough and good enough for him. Only low and pathetic people cheat, and you wouldn’t be with him if he was a man of no morals.

You have to start thinking positive, but that doesn’t mean ignoring your thoughts. There’s nothing wrong with thinking there’s a chance of him cheating, because that means if it does happen, you have closure and a step to help you get over him.

If he does cheat on you, it’s not the end of the world. It will hurt but it will also mean he wasn’t the one for you and the guy meant for you is out there.

I suffer from paranoia and even need medication for it, I find taking the situation and evaluating every possible outcome helps me a bit. It’s like creating a back up plan, just in case. Even if you don’t think you’ll need to use it.

I hope this helped, and I really hope things work out for you. Good luck x

Well, since your best friend is friends with him, you can confide in your best friend about your feelings for him. Only if you feel it’s right though. If you do tell your best friend, they will be able to support you and help your confidence. Also, because your friends with someone he knows, it’ll be so easy for you to arrange to hang out. You’re really at an advantage here, some people have no way to ease in being friends with their crush. You have to focus on earning trust and a close friendship with him. Relationships don’t just happen out of the blue. It will take time, but as long as you become friends with him you’ll then be able to start hanging out with him by yourself. You don’t need to flirt obviously with him, but dropping a few compliments here and there always make a guy smile. As long as you don’t go overboard and suffocate him, then he’ll end up warming up to you. If you’re alone with him, you can openly just say things like, ‘Oh I didn’t notice how bright your eyes are.’ It’s so easy to drop compliments like that without seeming over the top. You just have to work at a friendship because once you’re close enough to talk to him about anything, it will be far easier for you to admit your feelings for him.

Really hope this helped x Good luck

Bullying isn’t a subject to take lightly. If your best friend doesn’t believe you, then you’re going to have to leave him to find out the hard way. I promise you that relationships with girls like her never last long. It won’t be long until your best friend sees her for what she is and then comes apologizing to you. It is then down to you to forgive him or not.

You’ll have to handle this in a really mature way. Be honest about everything and don’t let your fear of his reaction hold back what you tell him. Let out everything to him, calmly. Try to word things that make it seem you’re on his side instead of attacking his girlfriend. If he doesn’t believe you, don’t get angry. Just tell him you knew he wouldn’t and then stop talking to him. Getting angry will just push him away from you and make him not believe you even more. 

If you stop talking to him, he’ll be left with his own thoughts. If he never apologizes to you and he ends up never believing you, then he isn’t a best friend. It will be hard to go through if that happens, but you’re better off without someone like him anyway. 

I really strongly believe that in just a few months he’ll realise his mistake and come back to you. Guys are pretty blind when it comes to bitchy girls but they find out eventually. As long as you tell him everything maturely and calmly, then I really believe things will be ok.

Good luck x